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Do you find yourself listening to break up music after a break up, feeling heartbroken and wishing it never ended? Do you want to get back with your ex, regardless of who broke up with who? If you really want to get back your ex back and you don’t want it to be over then you have to really be honest with yourself and look inward. Ask yourself if getting back with your ex will really make you happy. Why did you break up? It’s always good to remember the good stuff, but it’s important to remember why you broke up int he first place and if it was for good cause.

Most of the time, relationships can be repaired when two people shared more good times together than bad. But, if you are looking back and seeing that there was physical or verbal abuse or any kind of mental instability then it is probably best that you move on. Put away reminders of that person, like the break up music, and move on. But, if the bad times were just misunderstandings and maybe some pressure, then the chances of you getting back together with your ex and having an even better relationship are actually really good.

First things first. Don’t pressure! If you are constantly trying to get their attention by calling, emailing, texting, or visiting them, then you are going to push them away and make them realize the break up was a good choice. You don’t want to appear desperate. This is NOT attractive. The goal is to bring them closer to you and make them think the break up was a mistake.

This means that when they contact you….yes, they must contact you first. Do not be the first to call or send a message. When they do, don’t start an argument or confrontation. Keep it light. Don’t beg for another chance and don’t plea. Again – this looks like desperation. Don’t beat yourself up over anything that you feel you did wrong because that is in the past. If you already know you have changed, then prove it by just not doing those same things. Actions will always speak louder. Stay in the present. Don’t rehash the past or you will be right back where you were confirming the reason for the break up.

Promises on how you will change and make things better will push them away. Desperation WILL push them away.

There is an amazing shift that occurs when you begin to live your won life and fulfill it without the need of anyone else. By focusing on yourself, you back off of your ex and you create needed space for them to figure things out. When you are always around and making yourself known to them, they don’t miss you. But, when you create this magical shift of making yourself happy, you create that same magical feeling from when you first met and each of you had your own lives. It is the biggest turn on for your ex to see you happy on your own without needing them to make you happy. This is what will create those feelings of wanting to get back together!