Do you know how to flirt? You may think that a quick come on line works but you are probably wrong. This article can help you master your flirtation game and teach you some of the basics of flirting.
Is there a difference between a man and a woman knowing how to flirt? Men and women are different and so flirting is going to be different if you are a man or if you are a woman. Men tend to be more direct in their flirting. Women tend to flirt innocently and deliberately keep their flirtations light. Men tend to be heavier with the flirting. But at the same time a woman knows more often when someone is flirting with her than a man does. It probably all goes back to the hardwiring of the brain. But there is a difference and one that you must take into account.
When someone is learning how to flirt, how do you spot the signals in an interested man? When you are learning how to flirt you do have to be aware of your own body language and that of the man’s. Men are different from women in how they flirt and how they respond to flirting. A man may read sexual innuendos into your innocent flirting when all you are interested in is conversation and getting to know him. But there are some signs you can look for. The first sign is if he has turned his body to you and is talking to you. If he keeps turning away from you and speaking to other people while holding a conversation with you, he is not interested. That is your cue to move on. If, however, he is actively engaged in the conversation and is making eye contact…he is interested in what you are presenting and saying. Watch for other subconscious clues such as fiddling with his belt. Yes, this is a sign of sexual interest but it is also a sign of flirting.
I know there is a difference in knowing how to flirt and how to be sleazy but what is the fine line? Knowing how to flirt and being sleazy can sometimes get mixed. You may be giving off the right body language but saying inappropriate canned lines. Pick up lines only work in the movies. Sure, that line may be so old your grandfather and grandmother used it and it may get a laugh but you want the person to think you are being sincere. A sleazy pick up line is not going to do that. Be genuine in your conversation and in your movements. Do not unbutton your shirt down to your navel and expose your body parts. That is crossing into sleaze town. Try to keep the conversation at a simmer rather than boiling over with sexual innuendos. That is how you keep from being sleazy.
How often should a person practice flirting if they are just learning how to flirt successfully? If you want to master the art of flirting you have to do it quite a lot and you have to do it with strangers. You can practice all day and night on someone you know but it is not the same. You need to go into a social situation where you can meet new people. Once there you can use your hints and tips to help you begin flirting. Do not panic if you get rejected a few times. Remember to keep it nice and innocent. You do not want to come across as pushy, desperate, needy or sleazy.
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